A feeling of happiness is one of situational vectors of mental ecology. An internal “no-harm” indicator, a sign of a lesser workload of destructive emotions and thoughts. No wonder it is often linked to higher resourcefulness, productivity, energy levels, etc.
Eco-vector of choice
If something “feels right”, it basically means the choice, activity or context involves less destructive mental activity. The amount of our internal “baggage” that may hinder the endeavor is minimal. Unsurprisingly, feeling happier about a choice usually means the increased potential for achieving the goal, more resources, friendlier interactions with others, etc.
If we set aside the euphoric and physical pleasures parts, in a sense, the feeling is similar to the joy, peace of mind and relief experienced when we forgive someone, make a physical pain or a burden go away. The warm and fleeting experience of a difference between draining loops of destructive mental activity and a contentment, feeling replenished with unobstructed energy, affliction-free being.
For a person governed by a non-ecological worldview and destructive habits, fulfillment of a wish is a short-lived and progressively inflating option of “achieving happiness”. Unruly consciousness is categorical in its demands of repetitions, variety, greater volume, etc. Thus, it increases related tensions, making us “unhappy”. Their level subsides less and for shorter periods of time after each subsequent satisfaction of the wish. Happiness “vanishes”. At a certain point, wish fulfillment may not bring anything except frustration.
There is no problem with fulfilling wishes, as long as the process and “aftertaste” are not infused with destructive mental activity, or asymmetrical collateral damage.
Pursuit of happiness and emotional regulation
As we gradually introduce emotional maintenance to our lives, our awareness and understanding of the motives behind our actions and desires improves. We peel off outdated artificial layers and get to know what it is we really want. We spend less time trying to apply someone-else’s static meaning to our lives, but continuously discover our own.