A holistic ecological worldview is a prerequisite to managing our stories successfully. Being open to revising the full system of our views, whether it’s secular/scientific, spiritual, or “none”. Starting with the notion of “I”. We cannot successfully fix our attitude to a co-worker or partner, if we maintain obsolete reactions to people in general, some group, or ourselves.
We will not “make it” if we blindly “fake it”
We can demonstrate kindness, compassion, resilience or happiness but it is, indeed, “faking it”, if we keep an ethical dam on our genuine emotional undercurrents in the process. A bit more pressure and the dam is breached. A holistic approach is only to “fake it” if we also educate our worldview and emotions to “make it”.
From theory to practice
We normally pass three stages of learning/mind training to adopt theoretic knowledge and make it functional for events that matter:
- Conceptual knowledge: we learn a new theory, understand, provisionally agree to a new behavior and supporting worldview. However, obsolete mental habits still prevail in stressful situations.
- Conviction: we test new concepts and verify outcomes. We obtain personal experiences of not producing unwanted reactions in previously triggering contexts. Residual unwanted reactions may still be produced in some situations.
- Becoming: we have successfully adopted new habits. Unwanted reactions no longer arise, we embody a new worldview, interact with previously triggering stressful situations gracefully. Maintain balance, peace of mind and resourcefulness.
State-of-mind ownership experiment
Let’s see what happens if we take back responsibility for our own state of mind. Consider the long-term impact of the issues our emotions highlight and our ability to change. How would our daily stories change?